*collaborative guest post*
Being a new mum is amazing, but it isn’t a walk in the park. Between the smiles, the giggles, and the cuddles that make your heart melt, there is sick, poop, and constant shrieking. All of this can get overwhelming at times, exhausting, and, strangely, even a little boring too. Staying in high spirits when you feel so physically and emotionally drained isn’t easy, but that doesn’t mean that you can or should succumb to insanity. After all, your little one needs you happy and healthy just as much as you do. With that in mind, here are ten ways to stay sane as a brand new mum.
10 ways to stay sane as a brand new mum
1. Go To Class
When there’s nothing for you to do outside the house, chances are, you’ll just stay inside. This will leave you climbing the walls and slowly turn your brain to mush, especially if you’re low on visitors. This is why it’s so important that you find things for you and your baby to do. There are many classes available for newborns and mums, like yoga and swimming. Make sure you pick at least one of activities, no matter what it is so that you have a reason to get out in the world.
2. Vent To Your Friends
Mother and baby classes are the perfect place for you to meet other new mums and make some friends. For many women, the newborn phase is an incredibly isolating experience, especially with your first child. Having this support there means that you won’t feel so alone and will have people going through similar experiences to vent to. They can also offer tips and advice. Bottling up your feelings never helps, so make sure that you get your feelings out when you need to.
3. Write In A Journal
Some people don’t feel comfortable sharing their troubles with others. If you’re of this mind, then journaling might benefit you. This gives you a place to rid yourself of all of your bad feelings, without actually bringing them up to someone else. It will help you to sort through what is going on in your head and process it better. That being said, journaling shouldn’t be used as a substitute for getting help. When you have a genuine problem, you need to find a proper solution.
4. Sleep Whenever You Can
Babies begin to rob us of our sleep long before they’re actually born. However, once your little one arrives, you’ll miss the extra hours you got the nights when you were pregnant. All adults need around eight hours of sleep each night to function properly, but, when you have a baby that likes to wake you up at all hours, this can definitely be difficult. This is why you should try to sleep whenever the baby does. As soon as they nod off close your eyes until they start to cry again.
5. Take A Proper Shower
When you’re running on empty and covered in sick, nothing sounds more appealing than a long, refreshing shower. The only problem is that you have a very loud baby between you and the bathroom. Newborns love to be held, and, when they’re put down, they tend to cry. This is why most new mothers would much rather skip a shower. However, a shower will make you feel a lot better. Your little one may cry, but they’ll be fine in a basket in the bathroom for a short time.
6. Schedule Some Me Time
Every new mother needs some time to herself now and then. Leaving your little one behind isn’t easy, but it’s what you need to recharge and feel like yourself again. If you don’t know how to make yourself feel better, think about the things you did before you were pregnant. You might have gone to the movies, for example, or run yourself a relaxing bath. As long as you have a babysitter or loved one to take care of the baby, you can do whatever you want for a while.
7. Find A Great Doctor
All new mothers constantly fear that something is wrong with their child. You’ll worry if they sleep too much or too little, if they get hiccups, if they don’t smile, and much more. This is why it’s so important that you have a great doctor at the end of the phone. This is someone that you can call in even your most anxiety-filled and crazed moments. They won’t make you feel like you’re insane and will instead offer calm and helpful advice that actually helps to ease your mind.
8. Walk Off The Weight
No new mum should feel pressure to get rid of their extra baby weight the moment that they give birth. However, if this is something that is causing you anxiety or insecurity, then it’s something that should be dealt with. Little ones love to get fresh air and see a little bit more of the world, so take yours out for a walk every day. As well as the weight loss benefits, the exercise will also help you to manage your stress and make it much easier to nod off when you head to bed.
9. Make Meals Readily Available
Cooking a nutritious meal with a newborn in your arms is difficult at the best of times, but impossible at the worst. Rather than spend your days eating chocolate bars, biscuits, and crisps, you should make sure that you have meals available when you need them. Some mothers do this by cooking and freezing food before they have the baby. You might also want to ask loved ones to bring you food or have your meals dropped off through a delivery service.
10. Cut Yourself Some Slack
No mum is perfect. Your little one is going to get covered in their own pee, poop, and sick now and then, and, whether you like it or not, you will too. They are also going to cry all the time, and you will get stares and tuts from people in public. You might even lock yourself out of the house, forget the baby bag when you go out, and worse, just because you’re tired. When these things happen, you need to remember that they happen to others too, and to not be so hard on yourself.
Being a new mum can be a challenge, but, with the advice above, it is possible to stay sane.