My positive homebirth story – welcome to the world Tilly Mae

My positive homebirth story – welcome to the world Tilly Mae

She’s here! I still can’t believe it but my beautiful daughter is here. I would love to introduce you all to Tilly, born on 10th July at 3.45am and weighing in at a teeny 7lb 1oz. Oh, we are all so besotted with her and despite not even being 3 weeks old yet it feels like she has always been a part of our family. If you have followed me during this pregnancy you will know I was planning a homebirth and I am so pleased to say that my wish came true! I gave birth in the comfort of my own living room and it was such a positive and empowering experience. For those of you who are thinking of having a homebirth or need to read a positive birth story, here is my story of how my lovely Tilly entered the world.  View Post

Planning a homebirth – preparing for a positive birth experience checklist

Planning a homebirth – preparing for a positive birth experience checklist

*collaborative post – this post contains gifted items*

I am now 38 weeks pregnant with baby number 3 – 38 weeks! I am uncomfortable, grumpy a whole lot of the time and the size of a cow that has indulged in waaay too much grass. Most of all though, I am excited! It might sound strange to lots of women, especially those who have had a difficult birth in the past, but I am really looking forward to labour. There are the obvious plus points to baby girl making her move earth side: no longer feeling like I have swallowed an over inflated balloon full of cement, not having to deal with heartburn/hormones/pains every day and ,of course, I will get to meet my daughter at last. These aren’t the only reasons I am looking forward to the big day though, I am planning a homebirth and I can not wait to have a positive and empowering birth (all going to plan, of course). Over the last few weeks I have been busy getting my home prepared for my homebirth and my state of mind ready too. After all, giving birth isn’t easy wherever you do it! I have been reading up lots on hypnobirthing and getting into a relaxed, positive and confident frame of mind is essential to having a positive birth. If you are thinking about having a homebirth too, here is my check list of everything I am doing to prepare myself and my home for a natural and relaxing homebirth – fingers crossed! View Post

Disclaimer: I was gifted the CUB birth seat free of charge. All words and opinions are my own.

A speedy delivery – Alex’s birth story

A speedy delivery – Alex’s birth story

He’s here!

Finally after 9 long months of impatiently waiting, my baby boy is here and he is simply perfect. We have named our second son Alex William and here is the story of how he came into the world and made Oli, Leo and I so very happy. View Post

What’s in my hospital bag?

What’s in my hospital bag?

Pregnancy is full of special milestones: the positive test, the first scan, feeling those first movements, the 20 week scan, decorating the nursery and the list goes on. By the time you reach the third trimester you have pretty much ticked off all those major milestones and, apart from the big one – labour, there is only really one more thing left. The packing of your hospital bag is a big event for a pregnant mummy, it symbolises that your pregnancy is almost over and you are preparing to finally meet your baby after 9 long months of waiting. When I had Leo I packed enough for a week away, it was comical how much stuff I took with me to the hospital. This time around I am just packing the things I will actually need; one of the perks of a second baby is you now have valuable knowledge you didn’t have a clueless first time mum! So, for any other pregnant mums wondering what to pack for that very important trip to the hospital, here is a list of everything I am taking with me. I hope it helps. View Post

Everything you need to know about water births – expert advice from a midwife

Everything you need to know about water births – expert advice from a midwife

Water birth, it is something I had always turned my nose up at before having Leo. Sitting in a giant bath and pushing a baby out seemed such an odd concept to me, and if I’m honest, a little bit gross too. On the day I had Leo I was still dead set against it, that was until I realised gas and air does nothing and I was scared of having any of the harder pain relief. Suddenly, the thought of a birthing pool didn’t seem so crazy after all. I’m not going to say it didn’t hurt, but the pool helped so much and I was able to deliver Leo with no intervention at all and, considering he weighed 8lb 4, I got away with no stitches or grazing at all. Now I am all about water births, I definitely want one when the big day comes in October for baby number 2 to make his arrival and I tell everyone who asks how amazing they are. I am not a midwife though, I can only share my own experience. Today I have the lovely Lisa from The Irish Baby Fairy, a qualified midwife, to tell you everything you need to know about having a water birth. Fellow pregnant ladies, this one’s a must read. Over to you Lisa.. View Post

50 things I will never forget about the day I went into labour

I have said it once and I will say it again, Leo is turning 2 next month! It has been nearly 24 months since my little man entered this world and I still remember every little detail of that day. I often struggle to remember what I did yesterday and yet memories from the 15th of August 2013 feel so unbelievably  fresh and vivid. 
I really think these memories will be as clear to me when Leo’s 21st birthday is approaching as they are now but just incase they’re not, or I tragically loose my memory, I am writing this post now.
50 things that happened the day Leo was born…

1. Oli went to work at 8 and I had a lie in.
2. When I woke up something crunched in my pelvis (nice!).
3. I sat on my bouncy ball and ate a bowl of cereal with blueberries while watching Hollyoaks

4. Darren and Nancy had a car crash in Hollyoaks and I nearly cried.
5. I thought I needed to use the loo but I soon realised I was having contractions.
6. I stood staring out the window for ages holding the phone, debating whether to call Oli or not.
7. The contractions were just hurting my back at the start.
8. I phoned Oli and got in the bath.
9. Oli came home, put Mumford&Sons album on and ate last night’s left over spaghetti while sat on the bathroom floor.
10. I spoke to the midwife on the phone and she said the contractions were like walking up and down stairs.
11. She also, truthfully, told me they were going to get ‘a hell of a lot worse’.
12. Oli had to help me out the bath.
13. I spent a lot of time sitting on my bouncy ball and I also hugged it quite a lot.
14. My Dad drove me to the hospital and his crazy driving hurt more than the contractions.
15. When we got to the hospital mum made me sit in a wheelchair, I was so angry about this.
16. There was no room on the labour ward so I had to sit in my wheelchair having contractions in a hallway while my parents fussed and grumbled about the state of the NHS.
17. When I finally got on the ward I was lying on a bed next to a woman having her baby’s heart monitored.
18. The midwife and student midwife arrived and I was sick within minutes of saying hello.
19. The sick was purple because of my blueberry breakfast (too much information?).
20. I got moved to the midwife led birthing centre downstairs where they made tea and toast and got me a pack of Welsh cakes.
21. Oli ate the food and had the tea, I was not in the mood for eating.
22. Oli put Countdown on the TV  but changed it to Radio 1 as neither us could concentrate.
23. The woman in the birthing pool next door sounded like she was being murdered.
24. My gas and air made a weird noise.
25. I sat on another bouncy ball but it was much bigger than mine and it wasn’t pink.
26. I did not like their bouncy ball.
27. Lying flat on the bed was like torture.
28. I was sick all over the floor and Oli had to clean it up as the midwife was nowhere to be seen.
29. After about 2 hours the gas and air seemed to loose it’s pain numbing abilities.
30. At around 5pm I was told the birthing pool was free, I wasn’t keen on the idea but by this point gas and air was no longer enough.
31. I had not prepared for a water birth so for the rest of my labour I was just wearing a bra.
32. Oli was texting family a lot.
33. The student midwife nearly dropped her phone in the water.
34. Once my waters broke, contractions were a million times more painful.
35. I got emotional when the student midwife had the leave, she was amazing.
36. I didn’t like the new midwife, for no logical reason other than the fact she wasn’t the lovely student Polly.
37. When I was taken out the pool to be examined the contractions hurt so much I actually entertained the idea that I might be dying.
38. They put me back in the pool and I was happy (ish) again.
39. 25 minutes of pushing felt like an eternity.
40. Oli looked when Leo’s head  came out,  gross!
41. I told the midwife I wasn’t going to push again until I was ready, I obviously knew better than her.
42. I didn’t realise Leo had been born until the midwife told me to pick him out of the water.
43. Leo turned and stared up at me from the pool, his eyes were massive.
44. I struggled to see past the umbilical cord to check if he was a boy or a girl.
45. Oli cut the cord.
46. Me and Leo spent ages looking at each other.
47. Leo pooed on the midwife when she went to weigh him.
48. My parents came in to the delivery room to meet their new grandson.
49. Oli had to leave at 11, he had a celebratory cigar on his walk home.
50. Leo only woke twice that first night but I didn’t close my eyes once. I just gazed at my beautiful boy all night.

Do you remember all the little things that happened on the day your baby was born? I really hope I never forget.