Today I am super excited to feature a guest post from the fabulous Rhian who blogs over at From Tum to Mum . I am not going to spoil the post for you but I will say this..it’s friggin’ hilarious and oh so very true. As the title warns, if you’re feeling old you should definitely continue reading with caution..
If you’re feeling old, don’t read this – Guest post by From Tum To Mum.
I’m sat in Costa coffee, with my almost 2 year old and it’s finally happened.
It happened right here in public, without warning.
Well, actually that’s not technically true; it’s been coming for a while.
I’m not talking about finding grey hairs or the odd bit of wee slipping out when I sneeze.
No, I am talking about the sudden realisation that I am officially old.
I am surrounded by teenagers all using better smartphones than me, using apps I haven’t even heard of.
The tacky music they are playing on their mobiles has never before reached my ears. Possibly because I don’t listen to CRAP FM.
Their makeup makes my attempts when I was a teenager look laughable. Clear mascara and pressed powder? Pah!
For goodness sake, they are using WORDS that I don’t even understand.
“That is so on fleek.”
What’s probably worse than all of this, I cannot for the life of me put an age to them. Are they 12, 15 or 24?
I switch on Radio 1 and I find the presenter irritating.
I read a gossip mag and I have no idea who the ‘celebrities’ are. Gigi who now?
I look blankly at the run down of new housemates entering Celebrity Big Brother.
I look disapprovingly at bigger kids playing on the park and the language they sometimes utter near my toddler.
I look at what teenagers are wearing, and although their outfits are probably more expensive and more on-trend than me, all I can think is that it all looked s**t when we wore them in the 90s. When, I’d like to point out, Primark did not exist so we wore whatever Tammy Girl stocked. All of us. Without any alternative other than Kappa tracksuits.
So here’s the thing… The memories of learning to drive (and drink) at 17 years old seem like the other day, but I am actually now 34 years old.
I don’t think that’s particularly old, but it is twice the age I still remember fondly and today, my daughter is now closer to being 17 years old than I am.
I got my first Saturday job 19 years ago. I started university 15 years ago. I started my career 12 years ago.
I suddenly feel very old.
So am I OK about it?
The time that has passed gave and took away from me people that I love dearly. Against my wishes, it will continue to do so no matter how much I want to stop it.
But it’s also changed my life forever.
Without the passing of the last 20 years, I wouldn’t be me. I wouldn’t have experienced moments that I am proud of (and less proud of), I wouldn’t have made memories that I have already forgotten, I wouldn’t have met my husband, I wouldn’t have had the wedding day of my dreams, and I wouldn’t now have my own family.
I wouldn’t have a lot of life experience to offer my daughter, or a lot of confidence in myself as a parent.
I guess the moral of my ramblings is that although we may sometimes wish to go back to special times, we have to look forward.
We have to continue to grow.
We have to embrace the new phases of our lives and appreciate them for what they are.
We have to realise that we and the world around us continues to change beyond our control, and that it all happens very quickly.
Our aim has to be to make the most of it every second, not take the special people around us for granted, and not trying to wish our lives away too quickly.
Our littles are only little once, and I for one don’t want to miss a moment.
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Before we know it, another 17 years will have passed and we will be in our 50s…
Thank you for this brilliant post Rhian! I am 25 but I can really relate to this, I actually just had to Google what ‘on fleek’ means. Anyone else feeling like Rhian? I couldn’t agree with her final points more and I don’t want to miss a moment of my children growing up, as we all know too well that time goes by way too fast. If you loved this post please go and check out Rhian’s blog and follow her on social media.
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