Recently Alex has started to be really clingy, I mean, I can’t put him down for more than 2 minutes without him going mental and acting like I’ve abandoned him on the side of the road or something. Not wanting to miss out on the fun of stressing Mummy out, Leo has decided now is a great time to start being as naughty as possible and have loads of massive tantrums, worse than those of the biggest two year old diva going. So you would think the last thing on my mind would be the idea of potentially adding another baby to the chaos wouldn’t you? And yet here I am, I have a 3 year old and an almost 9 month old and I’m feeling, dare I say it, broody.
What is going on?
I don’t know if it’s because Leo is off to school in September, because Alex is insisting on making it his mission to learn to walk before his first birthday or because almost every single person I follow on instagram is either pregnant or has just had a squishy little newborn but for some crazy reason I am toying with the idea of maybe having a third baby. The thing is, deep down I know I’m happy with two. I love my boys and think our little family unit is lovely but there is some part of me (I’m blaming hormones!) that can’t help but wonder what life would be like if we had a third baby. So, to silence that little daydream and stop it in its tracks before I find myself trying to convince the husband we should try for another baby, I am writing this list…
59 reasons not to have a third baby
1. Morning sickness sucks
2. First trimester anxiety sucks
3. Having to keep a secret that big for 12 weeks is stressful and really hard to do
4. Maternity clothes are mostly unflattering and really unfashionable
5. Maternity clothes cost loads
6. Having a ‘not quite’ baby bump just makes you feel frumpy
7. You have no control over your appetite during pregnancy
8. Pregnancy hormones suck
9. The third trimester is really hard going
10. A much needed nap whilst heavily pregnant would be impossible with 2 little ones running around
11. Contractions are beyond painful (remember this!)
12. Giving birth is not dissimilar to someone holding a flame between your legs whilst you force out a melon
13. Those early days of breastfeeding are stressful and sometimes painful (remember what Alex did to your poor nipples!)
14. The postpartum bleed is painful, gross and lasts for weeks
15. You sort of feel like you’ve been hit by a lorry for the first couple weeks after giving birth
16. Changing that first ever pooey nappy is pretty disgusting, meconium is like tar
17. Waking up 10 times a night to stick a baby on your boob is not fun
18. Trying to make it through the day on 3 hours broken sleep with 2 kids to look after is hard enough as is
19. Coping with a whinging toddler and crying newborn feels like hell at times
20. The laundry pile is never finished as a family of 4, we would need another house to store another persons dirty clothes and sheets in
21. The weekly food shop already costs a small fortune
22. It surely wouldn’t be possible to feed a baby and a toddler and a fussy four year old and maybe even myself 3 times a day, would it?
23. We wouldn’t all fit in the car
24. I find it hard enough giving 2 children equal and fair attention
25. There would be no time in the day left for quality ‘me time’
26. The hubby and I never get a break to just be a couple as it is
27. Where would we put all the toys?
28. With only 2 no one can be left out
29. I’m shattered after a day at home with just the two
30. A third pregnancy and labour is very likely to obliterate what’s left of my pelvic floor
31. The hubby and I would be outnumbered
32. The budget would have to be even tighter, we wouldn’t be able to go on as many family days out
33. I would probably go bald thanks to post pregnancy hair loss (still shedding like a cat 9 months post birth)
34. Two of the kids would have to share a bedroom
35. Our established bedtime routines would probably go out the window
36. I could sell all the baby clothes that are taking up space in the attic
37. Our moses basket is worth a fortune, I would be able to sell that too.
38. I actually like my post baby body, I might not feel that way after a third pregnancy
39. We would never be able to afford to go on a family holiday
40. The two boys might get jealous
41. Could I really deal with 3 kids crying at the same time?
42. Potty training is not something I want to endure 3 times over
43. What if another child made my anxiety worse?
44. I might get post natal depression again
45. My other 2 children probably don’t want or need another sibling
46. A family trip to the cinema (one of our favourite things) would cost about a million pounds
47. I would have to write this blog in the middle of the night
48. Would I have any boobs left after breastfeeding a third baby?
49. My stomach muscles might split apart again
50. Could I really cope parenting three teenagers when the time comes?
51. What if it’s a girl and her brothers don’t like her?
52. What if it’s a boy and I feel a bit disappointed?
53. Nursing bras are ugly and the sooner I don’t have to wear them anymore the better
54. Any career plans would have to take another step back
55. We would have three times the worry
56. Does anyone actually survive the terrible twos third time around?
57. We would never be able to afford to give them everything they want
58. If we don’t have another then my days of changing nappies will soon be over
59. The hubby doesn’t want another one (end of).
Woah, that list ended up being a lot longer than I’d anticipated. I think I’ve created a pretty strong case, perhaps a third baby wouldn’t be the best idea after all. Of course, when making big life decisions you should always consider both sides of the argument. However, I feel writing ’59 reasons I SHOULD have another baby’ would be counterproductive in this instance.
As I said, Oli is very much of the two and done mindset and I’m pretty sure I am too. I don’t want to encourage that little broody part of me by writing a massive list of all the reasons why being a parent is amazing and why bringing another little life into the world would be a frigging amazing thing to do. It really would be wonderful.
Do you have more than 2 children? Are all my points valid or am I imagining it to be way more difficult than it actually is? Maybe you’re in the same situation as me, what’s stopping you from taking the plunge and extending your family? I would love to hear your thoughts.
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