At one point or another, we have all had a secret we have kept from everyone else. A little bit of information we have held on to tightly and guarded as if it were gold. If and when we decide to disclose this precious truth, great thought is given to who can be trusted with it.
Firstly, I must admit with this second pregnancy Oli and I have not been that good at keeping the news of our little bun in the oven under lock and key, immediate family and very close friends have all known from around week 7. I am not sure why we told so many people this time around as with Leo we only told parents and siblings up until our first scan.
Anyway, we haven’t been going around telling strangers that we’re having a baby and we did not post anything on social media until everything was found to be fine at the dating scan. The friends we chose to tell are people we have known a long time and those we knew would respect our request to not share the news with anyone else. Clearly, not all of them could be trusted.
My mother in law had been desperate to tell all her work colleagues about her sixth grandchild that was quietly developing and growing in my uterus but we had sworn her to secrecy, she was not to tell anyone until after the scan. She wasn’t happy about it but she understood the news was not hers to share so she agreed to wait. In hindsight, I should have let her tell her work friends as someone else who works there let our secret slip into the rumour mill and everyone knew about her new grandchild before she had a chance to tell anyone.
Let me explain, one of the people we carefully decided to tell while we were still in the ‘risky’ stage of the pregnancy was one of Oli’s oldest friends. The girlfriend of this friend is also an old school mate of Oli’s, they’ve been through a lot together. This same girlfriend also works with my mother in law. For reasons unknown to me, this friend decided to go to work one day, when my mother in law was off, and start telling people I was pregnant. People I don’t know, people I have never even met. I had no problem our news being shared around these very same people by my mother in law, the very excited grandmother of the baby in my belly, but for the secret to be revealed by someone just wanting to gossip really upset me. Of course, my mother in law was also devastated when a colleague came and congratulated her when she hadn’t so much as uttered a word about my pregnancy to anyone.
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