When it comes to contraception there are very few options for the men of the world. In fact, there are only two options: condoms or a vasectomy. That’s it. For us ladies? Well, we have a pretty extensive list to choose from: the pill, injection, coil and implant to name just a few. Don’t get me wrong, I think it is fantastic us women are able to take control of our own bodies and decide if and when we want to conceive a child. However, taking some forms of contraception can play havoc on a woman’s hormones and body. Contraception is great for preventing pregnancy but can cause all manner of other problems for some of us. So, wouldn’t it be amazing if, for once, the men in our lives could have bits of metal stuck in them for months? Or there was a special pill they could take every day to help prevent an unwanted pregnancy? I am pondering this now as Alex is 3 months old, I am soo not ready for another baby and there is no way I am going back on the pill or getting the evil implant again, so what are we supposed to do? I would love a contraceptive just for men to be invented, to give my body a break from interfering hormones and to take the pressure off me a bit. Surely scientists can come up with something better than a bit of rubber?
The pill for men, will it ever exist?
After giving birth to both of my babies it was seriously just a matter of hours before I had midwives on my case about contraception. I know it is part of their job to talk about these things but seriously? I had just pushed an actual human out of me, there is no way I was thinking about sex..at all. They told me I needed to be safe (obviously) and that by the time of my 6 week post natal check I would need to be ready to discuss my contraception choice with my GP. It was all aimed at me, me, me. Not my husband, the one who didn’t just give birth or has had to battle through 9 months of hellish hormones ruling his body. Me.
I am not blaming the midwives, it’s not their fault. When it comes to preventing pregnancy in the modern world it seems like it is down to us women to take responsibility and I just don’t think that’s fair. I am not saying get rid of the pill, coil, implant or whatever but I am saying can’t we have some more options so the men in our lives can take something instead? Yes, I know there are condoms but (sorry if TMI) they can be a real mood killer and in the heat of the moment can be too easily forgotten. The thing about the contraception that is available to us women is that you can take it and then just forget about it, it doesn’t have to interfere with the ‘act’ itself, ahem.
BUT like I said before, contraceptives can cause other problems that make the thought of having to take it again after a break pretty unattractive. I obviously don’t want my husband to suffer from mood swings, weight issues or a low mood (all things I have experienced after taking three different types of pill and having the implant) but I would be lying if I said that I wouldn’t be dragging him down the doctors surgery if they released a new pill for men tomorrow.
I mean, a pill that helps men get sexy time ready has been about for decades. There is a drug widely available to help men get it up but there isn’t a single medication out there that can stop them being a baby making machine? How does that work? There must be a way to stop those little swimmers doing their job properly that isn’t as drastic and permanent as a vasectomy or as inconvenient as a condom. There has to be a way.
In my attempt to avoid getting the implant again I have been researching online to see if a pill for men does in fact exist. It doesn’t, I knew this already but I just had to check. Change may be on the horizon though as scientists have completed a successful trial on monkeys for a special gel that can be injected into a man’s testicles (yea oww, but I bet it’s not as bad as childbirth guys!). The gel blocks the tube so no sperm can leave the body making it impossible to make a baby. Some more good news for you men too is that this contraception has zero side effects. Not one! Oh, it can also be easily reversed too when you decide the time is right to have baby,
Who knows if and when this injection will actually become available but wouldn’t it be amazing if it does? Wouldn’t it be great to have a choice? A choice that’s not just “ohh what one of these hundreds of contraceptives am I going to take” but more “hi husband, we’ve just had a baby shall we discuss which one of us is going to be using contraception?”. I am sure I am not the only woman out there who wants this to happen?
There have been conversations about ‘the snip’ but I can’t get on board with that idea just yet. I don’t think I want more children but I am only 25, I could change my mind one day. My baby is only 3 months old so thoughts of another child are far off in the future but they will only ever be thoughts if my husband has a vasectomy. I dread having to take contraception again but I am not about to swear off sex for the rest of my life either. Hopefully a pill for men, or this super injection, will be available one day soon. Until then, and with the pain of labour still fresh in mind, I am forever grateful to Durex. Extra safe of course.
What do you think? Have you ever wondered why there are so many different forms of contraception for women but there is only 2 for men? If there was a male contraceptive pill, would you want your husband to take it? Maybe you are a man reading this, what are your thoughts? Has your wife struggled with taking the pill in the past and if you had the choice would you take a contraceptive so she didn’t have to? Maybe you think I am complaining about nothing and should just be happy condoms exist or be grateful I have the choice to control if and when I get pregnant. I would love to know your thoughts in the comments below.
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