I have been writing this blog for nearly 11 months now and I still have a lot to learn and a lot to do before I am completely happy with it.
I mean, A LOT.
As we all know, blogging is not just about writing posts. I realised this very early on but I didn’t appreciate the sheer volume of other work that goes in to making a blog a success. As a blogger you have to read more blog posts than you write, run several social media accounts, take and edit photographs, keep on top of emails and there is always something on your blogs design that needs tweaking; all of this and you have to come up with and write interesting and engaging content.
The thing is, I don’t do all these things. I want to but I just don’t have the time. There have been occasions where the weight of all the work has left me feeling completely swamped and out of my depth. Blogging is not my job, yes it has brought in some money but not enough to class it as my career, not even close. For something that is supposed to be a hobby, sometimes blogging doesn’t feel much fun at all.
I want my blog to be a success, I really do. I want lots of people read and enjoy my posts. I want to grow my social media following so I won’t be embarrassed to tell brands my stats when they ask. I also have a little boy to look after though, a house to take care of and, well, an actual life to live.
At the beginning of the year I wrote my blogging goals for 2016, I still want to achieve all of these but I am struggling to see how it is going to be possible. How can I grow my blog when it demands so much from me? I could sit at the laptop all day, every day for a week and still everything wouldn’t be done. I know if you want to get far in life you have to work hard but surely putting my blog before my actual life isn’t the answer? Or is it?
So today, I am asking all my fellow parent bloggers out there, how do you do it? How do you have thousands of followers on Twitter and Facebook? Do you spend hours following people on Twitter hoping for a follow back? Do you join Facebook groups and spend even more time taking part in various threads? How do you find the time to blog every day when I struggle to get something published three times a week? Some of you even work full time jobs and manage to run a successful blog on the side, you my friends, are an inspiration.
I understand for parents who’s children are in school or at nursery then there is more opportunity for them to dedicate time to their blog. What about all you parents like me though, who’s little ones are with you all the time, how do you do it? Are you up until 1am writing posts and answering comments? Where do you find the time to schedule tweets, write newsletters and take part in linky’s?Do your little ones tolerate you typing on the laptop? Mine sure doesn’t. If I so much as lift the lid of the laptop, my boy is over bashing on all the keys or trying to throw it on the floor.
Is sacrificing time from you actual, real life the only way to grow your online presence? Do other hobbies have to be neglected if you want to make your mark in the blogging community? Am I delusional to think I can have a happy family life yet also be proud of my blogs performance?
Is there something I am missing? A secret schedule that helps you have an enjoyable real life and soaring page views? I know what I need to be doing to grow my social media following and get more people to stop by my blog but I just can not find the time to do it. The hour or two I get to write this blog in the day is nowhere near as much time as I need. My husband works all day and our time together in the evening is so precious, I feel guilty spending it staring at the laptop, ignoring him. Is this the way things have to be if I want to get my blog to where I want it to be? Do I need to distract Leo more during the day and spend more time blogging in to the early hours?
It may not sound like it right now, but I do really love blogging. I love my little corner of the internet, my online family scrapbook, my place to vent and seek support. It is just frustrating that I can see potential in my blog, feel confident in my content but can’t find the time to really make it shine. I am reluctant to exchange family time for blogging time, I worry in years to come I might regret it. There might be a day where I wish I hadn’t spent all those hours staring at a screen instead of cherishing the moments with my family. What if one day it makes me sad to think of all the evenings where Oli and I could have been enjoying time together but instead I was too engrossed in my smartphone to even notice him sat beside me? Will the rewards be worth the sacrifice though? I am not sure.
Finding a balance between all aspects in your life can be so difficult. Some of you bloggers out there have figured it out though. I read your posts about all your family days out, fun activities and baking masterpieces, your followers are through the roof and you are doing it all with your child (or 2..or 3!) in tow. How do you do it? Share your secrets with all us other bloggers out there who are just muddling through this busy world of blogging, trying to grow but not quite sure how, pretty please?
Do you struggle to find time to commit to your blog? Is your blogging to do list never ending too? Or maybe you have 1000’s of subscribers and stats us small time bloggers could only dream of, how do you find a family/blog balance? I would be really interested to hear your thoughts.