10 reasons it is totally ok to not enjoy pregnancy

10 reasons it is totally ok to not enjoy pregnancy

I am not loving this third pregnancy of mine. In fact, most of my time is spent daydreaming about the day my daughter is born, not just because I can’t wait to meet her but because I can not wait to not be pregnant anymore. Some days, and I know there will be some judgemental person out there about to spit out their tea with shock but I’m saying it anyway, I hate being pregnant; I hate it. You know what though? I am not keeping quiet about my lack of enjoyment in my body growing another human because pregnancy is hard sometimes and none of us mums-to-be should be ashamed to admit that. If you are pregnant now and feel the same, if you wake up every day wishing you could just time travel to your due date so this whole gestating business can be over with then please know you are not on your own. I feel you mama, it’s tough. What makes it even harder is that we are told we are supposed to LOVE pregnancy, to be grateful and just be quiet and bask in our blooming pregnancy glow (it doesn’t exist, by the way). There are lots of reasons to enjoy being pregnant and I do have days where I am swishing around the house in a floaty dress, cradling my bump as baby kicks away and I wonder what she will be like. I am not trying to convince the world to feel sorry for us expectant mums, pregnancy can be wonderful. Being pregnant can also be really shit too. To get across my point and to help the non pregnant population to understand that us humans growing humans are totally allowed to not enjoy pregnancy sometimes, I have written this list of the reasons why being pregnant can be so hard. View Post

How to survive pregnancy when you already have a toddler

How to survive pregnancy when you already have a toddler

I am not writing this post to take anything away from first time mums to be who find pregnancy difficult; being pregnant is hard work whether it’s your first time or your fifth. Surviving pregnancy with a toddler though? Well, growing a human whilst simultaneously looking after a tiny human is seriously challenging. When I was pregnant with Alex, Leo was about two and half and just over three when his brother was born. This time, with baby number three, Leo is five and Alex had just turned two the week before I discovered another baby was on the way. I have been pregnant twice now while also being a toddler mama and I have found it soo much harder than my first pregnancy. Looking back at the time when I was pregnant with Leo is like looking back fondly on a relaxing holiday, the pregnancy was a breeze compared to the subsequent two where I now had little people running rings around me. It may not seem it at times but you can make it through pregnancy in one piece while looking after a toddler – honest! You just need to accept that some days are going to be hard and please lovely mums, please accept any help that is offered to you. I am going to share my survival guide with you and I have also asked the mum of two or more community for their tips on coping during pregnancy when you have a toddler. I hope you find this post helpful and never forget this one thing..you can do this!! View Post

Who will I be when there are three? – a poem about pregnancy after postnatal depression

Who will I be when there are three? – a poem about pregnancy after postnatal depression

I am now almost 31 weeks pregnant with my third baby and things are getting really real now. Baby girl no longer kicks gently like soft fluttering butterfly wings stroking my skin, her limbs are instead poking out all over the place and she is constantly booting me in the ribs! My belly is huge and is stretching more everyday, I also have a pretty impressive waddle going on. The weeks are now down into single digits and I can say baby is due in 2 months now which feels insane as the day I found out back in November feels like last week. As my due date gets closer I am finding myself lost in thoughts about what life is going to be like once our daughter arrives. Something I am worrying about is how I will cope with three young children and whether I will get postnatal depression again. I’ve written a poem to try and get all these muddled thoughts out, to try and make sense of how I am feeling. It’s called Who will I be when there are three? If you too have suffered with postnatal depression and are now pregnant again, I am sure some of these words will resonate with you. View Post

Tips and gorgeous destinations for the perfect babymoon

Tips and gorgeous destinations for the perfect babymoon

*guest post – written in collaboration with Emily Jones*

One of the perks of being pregnant is having an excuse to go on holiday before baby arrives. It’s totally a thing and it’s called a babymoon! Oli and I went to Venice back in March without the kids and it was so lovely. Babymoons are a great time to relax and connect as a couple before baby comes along and you have no time to even think about a holiday. I have a lovely guest post today, it features some wonderful Italian destinations for your babymoon and there are lots of tips to help you get the most out of your babymoon too. Enjoy! View Post

The things no one tells you about pregnancy

The things no one tells you about pregnancy

Ahh pregnancy, a time where women hug their beautiful baby bumps, big smiles on their perfectly clear skinned faces, with their hair falling in thick shiny locks around their shoulders. Right? Well no, not really, not most of the time anyway. Don’t despair, there are times where pregnancy is wonderful (hello lovely butterfly baby kicks) but pregnancy is a lot harder for us women than the glossy magazines would have you believe. I am pregnant for the third time and have to tell you, those glowing moments have been very few and far between over the last six months, I could probably count them all on one hand. I understand why we don’t really tell mums to be about all the less than pretty parts of pregnancy, we want them to enjoy this special time and not scare them to death BUT I do think a bit of realism never hurt anybody. It’s best to be prepared, right? So, here I am dishing the truth on pregnancy, sharing the stuff no one tells you about. If you would rather stay living in the land of denial then maybe you should go read something else but be sure to stop by my blog again some other time! View Post

6 clever gadgets that can help mums during pregnancy and labour

6 clever gadgets that can help mums during pregnancy and labour

*Sponsored guest post*

If you are into gadgets and new inventions AND you are pregnant, then prepare for a post that is right up your street. Today I have a really interesting guest post from the team at Aniball. Aniball is a product that helps you prepare your pelvic floor ready for labour and can even reduce your risk of tearing during delivery – who wouldn’t want that? I hope you find this post useful pregnant mamas, there are definitely some things I want to try out (number 1 being the most urgently needed!).  View Post

Finding out baby’s sex at the 20 week scan – the for and against debate

Finding out baby’s sex at the 20 week scan – the for and against debate

** Since I wrote and published this post this morning, we have been for our 20 week scan and despite being adamant I wasn’t going to ( for all the reasons set out in this post), I did, in fact, find out the sex of our baby! Well, it is a woman’s prerogative to change her mind!**

I’m really excited today, it’s my 20 week scan! How I’m half through this pregnancy already I have no idea but I have been counting down to today. I’m so looking forward to seeing baba again, to see how much he/she has grown over the last 8 weeks. It may surprise you, considering this little one is our third, but we are not finding out today the sex of our baby. When the sonographer zooms in to check baba’s legs etc, I will not be looking too closely. I’m excited for the surprise on the big day, it’s only another 20 weeks to go! My decision not to find out the sex of baby number three seems to puzzle lots of people, I’ve had lots of ‘oh, really?!’ and ‘why not?!’ when I’ve told people we won’t be finding out. There are lots of arguments  for and against having your baby’s gender revealed at the 20 week scan, I’ve done both and I have to say I’m definitely firmly in team wait for a surprise on delivery day. If you too have your 20 week scan coming up and can’t decide whether to find out if you are having a girl or boy, here I try to flesh out the debate s to finding out your baby’s sex at the 20 week scan and give the reasons why I think it is a good idea and why I think it is better to wait. I hope it helps you decide! View Post

A letter to the baby in my tummy

A letter to the baby in my tummy

Dear Baby,

Oh, please know before you read on that mummy loves you. Mummy loves you so so much; you are only the size of an avocado but my love is the size of the world. You have only been growing inside me for 16 weeks and 5 days, I have only seen black at white flickering images of you on an ultrasound scan, but I love you fiercely already. I promise. View Post

Miscarriage anxiety – the first trimester

Miscarriage anxiety – the first trimester

*This is a post I wrote when I was 8 weeks pregnant*

I have heard people say some pretty amazing things to me in my life so far. ‘I am in love with you’ , ‘It’s a boy!’ , ‘I am so proud of you’ to mention just a few. Earlier this week I heard six little words from a complete stranger that made me feel the most relieved and happy I have ever felt. The words came from a lovely lady, I think she said her name was Kirsty, and up until she said them I had been on the verge of tears and full of fear for days. Kirsty is a lovely sonographer at the Early Pregnancy Unit in Singleton Hospital and what are these words she said, you may be wondering? The sentence that flooded my whole body with relief and caused a strange sob/laugh to escape from my mouth was this – ‘There’s a live baby in there’. A live baby! I had been bleeding on and off for about five days, the blood changing from small spots to a heavy enough flow to need the protection of a sanitary towel, in the hour we had been sitting in the hospital waiting room I was convinced I was going to be told I’d lost the baby by the time it was my turn to go and be scanned. I am currently 8 weeks and 5 days pregnant and for the past month and a half I have been full of anxiety that I am going to have a miscarriage. View Post

New house new baby strikes again – baby number 3 due July 2019

New house new baby strikes again – baby number 3 due July 2019

Way back when in September 2015 Oli, Leo and I moved from Swansea to Southampton. 5 months later, in February 2016, I discovered I was pregnant for the second time. Fast forward to May 2018, the four of us packed up once more and moved from Southampton back to Swansea. Can you guess what I found out in November, just 6 months after moving again? Yup, there was that second blue line staring up at me from a pregnancy test. New house new baby, maybe it’s not just an old wives tale after all! View Post

How to manage incontinence during pregnancy

How to manage incontinence during pregnancy

*collaborative post*

Growing a human is hard work, our amazing bodies go through a lot during those 9 long months of pregnancy. There are lots of side effects to being pregnant, some good and some, well, not so good. The best thing about pregnancy is that you get a beautiful baby at the end of it all but a lot of things happen before we get to that magical moment. When you are pregnant you have to deal with raging hormone, weight gain, aches and pains and also the risk of incontinence. The fear of accidently wetting yourself when you are pregnant is very real, with all that pressure on your pelvic floor, things like sneezing or laughing too hard can all too easily end up with a little leakage. Who ever told you pregnancy was glamorous was lying! Don’t worry though, incontinence doesn’t have to become a part of your life just because you are pregnant, Hartman Direct have put together this really useful article on how to manage incontinence during pregnancy so you can spend more time enjoying those baby kicks and less worrying about where the nearest loo is. View Post

How to plan a dream baby shower

How to plan a dream baby shower

Sponsored post.

There are several rites of passage mums to be must go through before they get to welcome their little bundle of joy into the world. There’s the morning sickness, the first scan, those first fluttery baby kicks. In recent years, mums have had another pregnancy milestone to look forward to – the baby shower. Despite being a mummy of two, I have never had my very own baby shower (cue the violin music). Living far away from friends and family meant organising a special get together to celebrate my bumps just wasn’t really possible. I have attended a few baby showers though and I always think they are such an exciting occasion. As I never got to have my own baby shower (sob) and I’m 99% sure I’m not going to be having a third baby, I thought I would put together a little post all about throwing a baby shower of dreams! Just because I didn’t get one of my own doesn’t mean I don’t know how to organise a party that will make a soon to be mama smile. If you have a pregnant friend and are planning to throw her a baby shower, or maybe you’re organising your own, hopefully this post will be helpful. View Post

The ultimate pregnancy guide

The ultimate pregnancy guide

Pregnancy can be such a confusing time in a woman’s life. There is a list of all the things you should be doing to help your body through this magical yet challenging time and then an even bigger list of things you are definitely not supposed to do. In both my pregnancies I often found myself googling things like ‘foods to avoid when pregnant’ and ‘how much exercise can I do while pregnant?’. I had so many questions and seeking out all the answers to my pregnancy queries took a lot of time and Google often left me feeling more confused than I was to start with.

If you are trying to conceive or have a baby on the way, the people at Hartmann Direct have put together this really useful infographic to help you know what to expect when you’re expecting. This handy pregnancy guide helps answer so many pregnancy related questions, starting with ‘am I really pregnant?’ right up to ‘how much caffeine can I drink whilst pregnant?’ and ‘how do I avoid incontinence during pregnancy?’.  So, pregnant mamas go pop the kettle on, have a read of this ultimate pregnancy guide and save it on your phone for the next time you are in a restaurant and are not sure what you are allowed to order from the menu! View Post

The daily struggles of the heavily pregnant

The daily struggles of the heavily pregnant

Being pregnant has it’s many ups and downs, there are lots of little perks to growing a human but the journey is rarely a completely smooth one. The first 12 weeks are horrible for most mums, full of morning sickness and exhaustion but then the second trimester brings with it a boost in energy, exciting baby kicks and a blooming baby bump. By the time you arrive in the third trimester, your energy begins to slip away again and as your body is stretched beyond all recognition, it can be hard to hold on to that ‘pregnancy glow’. I am now 39 weeks and 5days pregnant, my pregnancy journey is almost over and I am so relieved. Obviously, I can’t wait to meet my baby boy and to get stuck into life as a family of four but I am also eager to say goodbye to all the daily struggles I am facing now I am the size of a whale. For any pregnant mummas out there blissfully enjoying the earlier stages of pregnancy, I thought I would give you a little insight in to what is to come, all the little struggles you will face when you are heavily pregnant and can barely remember what is was like to be able to see your feet (if you are a believer in ignorance is bliss, maybe you should go read one of my other pregnancy posts!). View Post

A letter to my first born

A letter to my first born

Dear Leo,

I have been thinking about writing this letter to you for a while now. Your baby brother is due to come into the world in just a week’s time, I am rapidly running out of time to tell you everything I want to say. So, here goes.. View Post