The reality of working evenings

The word ‘mummy’ can follow a number of different words in an attempt by others, or sometimes yourself, to define what type of mother you are. These prefixes include, but are not limited to: young, old, crafty, fun, strict, amazing, natural and my favourite, the yummy mummy. Most of us will be a magical mixture of all these different types of mum but there is one place in the vast spectrum of mum subcategories where it is clear where we belong; are you a stay at home mum or a working mum?
So happy to be off to work!

Well, for most of us it’s clear. I spend all day every day with my boy and 3 or 4 nights a week I miss out on bedtime because I am off pulling pints at work. So where do I fit? If I had to put it into some kind of mathematical form, I would say I am 85% stay at home mum and 15% working mum.
The idea of spending all day with your baby and a few times a week not putting them to bed may seem like the perfect set up to all those mums out there missing out on time with there kids while working 9 to 5. I am not complaining but sometimes working in the evening is not all it is cracked up to be.
I dedicate this list to all my fellow  15% working mums.
The reality of working evenings…
* You get to spend all day every day with your baby.
* You spend all day thinking about going to work.
* If you go out for the day you always end up in a rush trying to get home in time.
* Tea time is usually a mad rush, especially if you have had to waste precious time getting your little one to eat.
* Your toddler will manage to smudge food somewhere on your uniform but it’s a miracle if there is another clean one in the house.
* Sometimes your baby will cry when you leave and act as though you are abandoning them forever.
* Other times they really couldn’t care less and get grumpy that you’ve interrupted Mr Tumble to give them a kiss.
* Once in work you will have to remember, though they may sometimes act like them, customers are not toddlers.
* Between the hours of 6 and 7 you will be wandering how the bedtime routine is going and if your little one is behaving for your other half.
* Even though everything is always fine, you still feel the need to text and check baby is happily in bed..every time.
* You feel bad that you’re not at home to kiss your baby good night.
* If you have had a long, hard day doing the mum thing then dealing with grumpy customers will be particularly challenging.
* After a full day of toddler talk you are glad for some adult conversation with your colleagues.
* Come 10pm you are knackered.
* By 11pm you are starting to resemble a zombie and wish everyone would go home already.
* When you finally get home you are no longer tired, ahh!
* Most nights you will stay up stupidly late binge watching (insert tv show here).
* Your husband will be fast asleep and you will have to climb into bed like a ninja.
* You never really get a day where you are not doing any work.
* Evenings off with the husband are sacred.
* Rarely do you both have a full day off together
* You save £££s in childcare bills.
* You wouldn’t change it for the world all because of the first point on this list.
Happiest when we’re together.

Do you work evenings? How do you find it?
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  1. July 21, 2015 / 11:35 am

    Good for you to be around the baby all day and then to go to work in the evening. I'm beat by the end of the work day. #TwinklyTuesday

  2. July 21, 2015 / 7:07 pm

    I am a SAHM and so lucky that we can I left my job a year ago and it was the best decision ever. I can understand the pros and cons of your situation though. Great post xx #twinklytuesday

  3. July 23, 2015 / 6:39 am

    It can be very tiring some days, especially if Leo has been up since 6 and I'm working until gone 11 in the evening.x

  4. July 23, 2015 / 6:40 am

    I wish I didn't have to work but we can't afford for me not to. I was a SAHM for the first 14 months, you are so lucky you don't need to work xx

  5. Chloe Ciliberto
    July 24, 2015 / 6:16 pm

    I do the same. I work in a restaurant a few nights a week and sometimes don't get home till midnight/one in the morning. It's exhausting and I hate feeling like i need to rush back home from our day out to get ready and then miss out on bedtimes. I'm hoping one day I'll earn enough from my blog to do that full time instead. The benefits of working in the evenings though are worth it. It does mean we get to spend all day with our little ones and even though it's tiring then going to work, I'd much prefer that to going to work in the day. xx #thelist

  6. Aby Moore
    July 25, 2015 / 8:33 am

    I do work evenings, but I am lucky that I work on my blog so work at home. It must be so difficult, but I am glad you get to spend all your days with your son. Thanks for linking up to #TheList x

  7. July 27, 2015 / 2:01 am

    I've always worked traditional 8-5 M-F jobs. My unusual take on that lasted a year, where I worked from home full time, 2 hours of my workday overlapping with time that my daughters were home from school. We all play our own variations on the theme of work and career – even if it's putting careers entirely on hold while our littles are little. Thanks for linking with #TwinklyTuesday.

  8. July 27, 2015 / 1:45 pm

    I would not cope if I had to work until 1!You must be exhausted the next day?it would be amazing to not have to do it and blog full time but I am so happy I font have to work in the day and leave Leo at a nursery xx

  9. July 27, 2015 / 1:48 pm

    You are a very lucky lady Aby, living every bloggers dream. It is difficult sometimes but it's better than the 9-5 alternative. Thanks for hosting as always xx

  10. July 27, 2015 / 1:51 pm

    Yes it's all about what suits you and your family. I hope one day when Leo is a bit older I be able to start a career as I don't want to still be pulling pints when I'm 40 xx

  11. November 14, 2016 / 7:55 am

    I work evenings and 1 day over the weekend which means hubby and I don’t actually get a whole day off together. But it means I am home all day . My kids are older now so I may look into swapping a shift or two to daytime hours.

  12. October 24, 2017 / 5:33 am

    Just reading this as im winding up from a 12 hour nightshift. Yes i work evenings…and all night too! Often without childcare the next day like today so had the kids all day yest work a 12 hour nightshift then will have them all day today before i pass out as soon as they are in bed at 7pm! Its exhausting but i get to spend time with the kids without the need for costly childcare much of the time – they are booked into nursery two days a week which is a godsend. We all just do what we can to get by. Great post – just seeing jow thsts its an old one do u still work the evening shift?i hear you with the limited time off together with hubby its awful isnt it x
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