The Newbie Takeover guest blogging series is back! I took a bit of an unplanned break from this series, not because I didn’t have any submissions but because the summer holidays happened. I have been trying my best to keep up with blogging commitments but having to look after Leo and Alex full time again has meant I’ve had to let some bloggy things slide in order to spend lots of quality time with the boys. Anyway, I’ve managed to claw back a bit of time so I am now relaunching The Newbie Takeover and next up is Vicky from The Mummy Bubble with a brilliant post about why you should blog. Over to you Vicky.. View Post
Recently I went to see my GP again about my mental health as I had been struggling with a low mood and had been feeling emotionally run down for a while. I went through a period of a couple months where I had started to feel back on top form, I was loving my life as a mum of two and everything was good but then that familiar cloud of depression began to lurk over my days again. The doctor doesn’t want to give me medication and I don’t think that’s what I want either, actually as soon as I spoke (cried at) to her I felt a weight lift off my shoulders and in the days that followed I started to feel better. Since I started opening up about my mental health way back at the beginning of the year I have learnt that talking is a powerful tool when it comes to recovery. Talking and writing have helped me so much and it may be hard to get the words out but once you overcome that hurdle it really does help. View Post
As you may already know, this week (August 1st-7th) is World Breastfeeding Week, a week to celebrate breastfeeding, change peoples negative views on breastfeeding and to help people learn more about the most natural thing in the world. If you read my blog regularly then you will know I am passionate about breastfeeding and I share a very honest account of what breastfeeding is really like in my breastfeeding diary.
The UK has one of the worst breastfeeding rates in the world, considering we are a country that knows how beneficial and amazing breastfeeding is, for some reason, research from 2015 shows that only 0.5% of mums are still feeding their babies by the time they reach 12 months old. View Post
Hi everyone, happy Friday! Well, it is actually Sunday morning as I write this because we are headed off for a caravan holiday this week and I will have no internet or computer to set the linky up so I am being super organised.
Thanks everyone who linked up with us last week, we had a big boost in linkers which was lovely to see. Lucy and I really love reading your posts and seeing everyone spread so much love on Twitter, it really makes our Friday to read how happy bloggers are to be chosen as a #BlogCrush.
There is no greater gift in this life than that of a baby. Yes, I know it sounds cheesy and for the first few months all they really do is cry and poo but having a baby really is the best thing in the world. Do you know what also happens when you have a baby? People like to buy you stuff, it is obviously not the best thing about bringing a human into the world but it is a nice little perk all the same. Although it is pretty easy to accept gifts as a new parent, buying a friend or family member a present when they become parents can be tricky, especially if you are looking for something unique. If you just can’t bear to give a new mum in your life yet another bouquet of flowers or a new dad another novelty ‘Who’s the Daddy?’ T-shirt to add to his growing collection, then it is worth you stopping by Uncommongoods online. There is massive selection of unique gifts perfect for new parents on the Uncommongoods website. Whether you are looking for a gift with a personal touch, a boozy gift to help the new parents wet the babies head or a gadget gift for a tech loving parent to occupy themselves with while the baby naps, you are sure to find the perfect gift and not have to worry about someone else already buying them it. Here are my top gift ideas for new parents, hope you find it useful. View Post
It is Friday so that means it is time for another week of the linky that is all about the blog love’ #BlogCrush . I am being super organised and writing this on Wednesday evening, tomorrow I am off to a blogger event at the Roald Dahl museum with the kids and I am sure I am going to be way to tired to set the linky up then.
How have you all found the first week of the summer holidays? I hope it has not been too stressful having the kids home and you have managed to have lots of fun, despite the rain! We are away again next week, we are going to stay in my parents caravan in Wales for a few days. I can’t wait for some quality family time.
Big thank you to everyone who linked up last week, I really enjoyed reading all your posts. View Post
If I had to write a list of all the things I love to do in life, two things that would make it pretty close to the top are reading and eating cake. I have been a massive book worm for as long as I have been able to read and my all time favourite author as a child was Roald Dahl. So, I am sure you can imagine how excited I was to receive an invite to an event celebrating the collaboration between Mr Kipling and Roald Dahl this summer at the Roald Dahl Museum and Story Centre. A chance to get to know more about my favourite children’s author and the opportunity to eat loads of cake? Obviously I said yes and this morning the kids and I headed off to Great Missenden, Roald Dahl’s home and inspiration for several years, to discover more about the wacky world of Roald Dahl and to find out all about the Mr Kipling Splendiferous Summer. If you are partial to a French Fancy (or 5), would like to find out how to win some amazing prizes this summer holidays and love the children’s literary mastermind that is the amazing Roald Dahl, then you are definitely going to want to read on.. View Post
Alex is 9 months old, he has now officially be living outside of my belly for as long as he was cooking inside it. It is so mad, I can’t get over it, I know I say it all the time but I this little mans baby days are just flying by too fast. It has been a bit of a rocky month, there have been lots of good times but my not so little bundle of joy has been quite challenging lately too. Read on to find out what has been happening since Alex’s 8 month update.. View Post
Happy Friday lovely people, are you ready for another week of #BlogCrush linky fun? THANK YOU to everyone who linked up last week, I have been on a mini holiday this week and your blog posts served as excellent holiday reading material. If this is your first time here, hello! I hope you find lots of fabulous blogs to read and please check out the rules below before joining in – #BlogCrush is not like any other linky in the blogland, we are all about promoting the work of others as well as ourselves
Don’t forget we have made a slight change to the rules – *comment on one of my posts , one of Lucy’s posts and TWO personal posts* View Post
Recently Alex has started to be really clingy, I mean, I can’t put him down for more than 2 minutes without him going mental and acting like I’ve abandoned him on the side of the road or something. Not wanting to miss out on the fun of stressing Mummy out, Leo has decided now is a great time to start being as naughty as possible and have loads of massive tantrums, worse than those of the biggest two year old diva going. So you would think the last thing on my mind would be the idea of potentially adding another baby to the chaos wouldn’t you? And yet here I am, I have a 3 year old and an almost 9 month old and I’m feeling, dare I say it, broody.
What is going on?
I don’t know if it’s because Leo is off to school in September, because Alex is insisting on making it his mission to learn to walk before his first birthday or because almost every single person I follow on instagram is either pregnant or has just had a squishy little newborn but for some crazy reason I am toying with the idea of maybe having a third baby. The thing is, deep down I know I’m happy with two. I love my boys and think our little family unit is lovely but there is some part of me (I’m blaming hormones!) that can’t help but wonder what life would be like if we had a third baby. So, to silence that little daydream and stop it in its tracks before I find myself trying to convince the husband we should try for another baby, I am writing this list…
59 reasons not to have a third baby
1. Morning sickness sucks
2. First trimester anxiety sucks
3. Having to keep a secret that big for 12 weeks is stressful and really hard to do
4. Maternity clothes are mostly unflattering and really unfashionable
5. Maternity clothes cost loads
6. Having a ‘not quite’ baby bump just makes you feel frumpy
7. You have no control over your appetite during pregnancy
8. Pregnancy hormones suck
9. The third trimester is really hard going
10. A much needed nap whilst heavily pregnant would be impossible with 2 little ones running around
11. Contractions are beyond painful (remember this!)
12. Giving birth is not dissimilar to someone holding a flame between your legs whilst you force out a melon
13. Those early days of breastfeeding are stressful and sometimes painful (remember what Alex did to your poor nipples!)
14. The postpartum bleed is painful, gross and lasts for weeks
15. You sort of feel like you’ve been hit by a lorry for the first couple weeks after giving birth
16. Changing that first ever pooey nappy is pretty disgusting, meconium is like tar
17. Waking up 10 times a night to stick a baby on your boob is not fun
18. Trying to make it through the day on 3 hours broken sleep with 2 kids to look after is hard enough as is
19. Coping with a whinging toddler and crying newborn feels like hell at times
20. The laundry pile is never finished as a family of 4, we would need another house to store another persons dirty clothes and sheets in
21. The weekly food shop already costs a small fortune
22. It surely wouldn’t be possible to feed a baby and a toddler and a fussy four year old and maybe even myself 3 times a day, would it?
23. We wouldn’t all fit in the car
24. I find it hard enough giving 2 children equal and fair attention
25. There would be no time in the day left for quality ‘me time’
26. The hubby and I never get a break to just be a couple as it is
27. Where would we put all the toys?
28. With only 2 no one can be left out
29. I’m shattered after a day at home with just the two
30. A third pregnancy and labour is very likely to obliterate what’s left of my pelvic floor
31. The hubby and I would be outnumbered
32. The budget would have to be even tighter, we wouldn’t be able to go on as many family days out
33. I would probably go bald thanks to post pregnancy hair loss (still shedding like a cat 9 months post birth)
34. Two of the kids would have to share a bedroom
35. Our established bedtime routines would probably go out the window
36. I could sell all the baby clothes that are taking up space in the attic
37. Our moses basket is worth a fortune, I would be able to sell that too.
38. I actually like my post baby body, I might not feel that way after a third pregnancy
39. We would never be able to afford to go on a family holiday
40. The two boys might get jealous
41. Could I really deal with 3 kids crying at the same time?
42. Potty training is not something I want to endure 3 times over
43. What if another child made my anxiety worse?
44. I might get post natal depression again
45. My other 2 children probably don’t want or need another sibling
46. A family trip to the cinema (one of our favourite things) would cost about a million pounds
47. I would have to write this blog in the middle of the night
48. Would I have any boobs left after breastfeeding a third baby?
49. My stomach muscles might split apart again
50. Could I really cope parenting three teenagers when the time comes?
51. What if it’s a girl and her brothers don’t like her?
52. What if it’s a boy and I feel a bit disappointed?
53. Nursing bras are ugly and the sooner I don’t have to wear them anymore the better
54. Any career plans would have to take another step back
55. We would have three times the worry
56. Does anyone actually survive the terrible twos third time around?
57. We would never be able to afford to give them everything they want
58. If we don’t have another then my days of changing nappies will soon be over
59. The hubby doesn’t want another one (end of).
Woah, that list ended up being a lot longer than I’d anticipated. I think I’ve created a pretty strong case, perhaps a third baby wouldn’t be the best idea after all. Of course, when making big life decisions you should always consider both sides of the argument. However, I feel writing ’59 reasons I SHOULD have another baby’ would be counterproductive in this instance.
As I said, Oli is very much of the two and done mindset and I’m pretty sure I am too. I don’t want to encourage that little broody part of me by writing a massive list of all the reasons why being a parent is amazing and why bringing another little life into the world would be a frigging amazing thing to do. It really would be wonderful.
Do you have more than 2 children? Are all my points valid or am I imagining it to be way more difficult than it actually is? Maybe you’re in the same situation as me, what’s stopping you from taking the plunge and extending your family? I would love to hear your thoughts.
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